The Setup: what tools I use to get shit done. #A blogjune post


Inspired by reading some #blogjune literature earlier in the week, and snail’s encouragement to participate in this particular thread proposed by Paul Hagon.

What tools do you use to get your job done?

  1. Who are you, and what do you do?

2. What hardware do you use?

3. And what software?

4. What would be your dream setup?

Well, here goes.

Ko Hana Whaanga ahau. No Alicetown Playcentre whare tākaro ahau. Mess

  1. I am a stay-at-home Mum and have been for the past five years. I am a relationship manager; domestic engineer; project manager; micro-manager; problem-solver; counsellor; mediator; nurse; motivational speaker; leaning post; child development coach; teacher; connector; educator; librarian; chef. I do it all. Or at the very least, try.
  2. Definition of hardware from Merriam-Webster,

  major items of equipment or their components used for a particular purpose

LunchboxesThe kitchen – tap, sink, microwave, oven, running warm water, bibs, face cloths, plates, bowls, cups and utensils –> to feed and fuel the children

The laundry – washing machine, washing powder, soap, tap sink, nappy buckets, washing basket, laundry baskets –> to keep us in relatively presentable clothes.

The bathroom – wharepaku, tap, sink, Washing basket DIYface cloths, bath, face cloths –> to keep us clean and presentable to the outside world

Bedroom – bed (sheets, brolly sheets, pillow, blue cat, tigey, duvet etc) –> so we can rest and sleep comfortably between day shifts

Other miscelaneous hardware – heaters, to provide warmth. A few more I can’t think of right now.

The van –> for transportation of important beings from A to B and Buggy and scooterssometimes C and D. (and occasionally E, F, G, H, I and J, and K and once or twice a year, L)

Buggy and two scooters.

3. Definition of software from Merriam-Webster,

something used or associated with and usually contrasted with hardware

But you can’t use the antonym in the definition… gah.

Ok, I can’t keep up the sarcasm. Software you ask? What software do I use to do my job? My children. Can they be classed as software. They are a real contrast to the hardware. They are as malliable as they come. They are the most un-hardware (software??)-like creatures you can get. And when you list all the hardware required for the role (required is a strong word, lets just say, all this hardware makes this role easier in the western world). It just makes sense that the essential software addition in the equation is children. You make up a joke about what software I use.

4. And what would be my dream setup?

I am happy with my current setup thank you



Women who get shit done

So I thought I would write another one of those gratitude posts, but they’re all so lame, so I retitled this one, and labelled it Women Who Get Shit Done. Such a great unconference title.

And more reasons why I chose Librarianship

It is a sisterhood. It’s filled with women. It’s filled with mothers. It’s filled with femininity. It’s a caring profession. It’s filled with women who are genuinely supportive of you. Mostly. This has been my experience and I’m being open with you about my journey here.
I recently attended an unconference for women titled WWGSD. I came away from it more drained than I am from a day at home with my kids. I was more mentally exhausted. More emotionally exhausted. Depleted even, more than anything else I think that I’ve ever experienced. Possibly even childbirth. That’s saying something, isn’t it? The third time round anyway. It wasn’t a bad depleted or emotionally exhausted. Don’t get me wrong. I had to clarify that at the time because I did get that sympathy ”

It wasn’t a bad depleted or emotionally exhausted, don’t get me wrong. I had to clarify that at the time because I did get that sympathy “awwww” response. It was worth it. You know that anything hard is worth doing. Anything that challenges you is worth doing. Anything that makes you vulnerable, that brings you out of your comfort zone, anything that opens you up, is worth doing. Talking, laughing, crying, childbirth, parenthood, hugging, you name the next five. Some of these things, literally open you up. To see who you are inside yourself. To quote Westworld, “it changes you. Shows you who your true self is… and I can’t fucking wait to meet that guy”.

Well me too.

Anything that changes you, is worth investing in.


I say to people that make it to my Playcentre’s gates, well done for getting here. You need that reminder. You got here. Well done. It was hard work, but getting your foot in the door is the first step to an achievement. Or if you get anxiety or agoraphobia or PND, getting your foot out the door is also an achievement.

Thank you team for getting me here and where I am today.

Thank you for coming here today.

Conversation starters

So this fantastic unconference was held in Christchurch a couple of months ago, which I was super lucky enough to attend. It was the second round of Women Who Get Shit Done, or WWGSD for short.

It. Was. Awesome. I can’t even remember when exactly it was, but I had the weekend away from the kids, and that was special in itself. I wrote another post about it, so I’ll post that soon.

I wrote this post, “Conversation starters” the day before attending. I was nervous about interacting with a bunch of adults I didn’t know. And I’d never been to an unconference before. I billed myself as the Playcentre delegate. I was attending with my 12mo son however, as a comforting cloak of identity, but ended up going solo.

Hana at WWGSD Chch

Conversation starters -Intended for use at WWGSD chch 2017:

  • Ko wai toku ingoa? Ko Hana ahau me a tenei ia Matthew.
  • No hea koe?
  • How do you manage to GSD with young kids?
  • How do you hang your washing?
  • If you could withhold one piece of advice for parents-to-be, under what topic what would you choose?